“You’re so lucky you’re slim, Roman”

I’ve heard this numerous times. Every time, it’s by a complete loser.

It’s not luck. It’s self-control

I know. A lot of people don’t have self-control and they’d rather blame someone else and/or make excuses than figure out how to get better.

I’m not being holier than here. I’ve been that person. I know what it’s like.

I’ve been thru my mad at the world years. Where I thought things were unfair.

Looking back, I cringe at the old me. That person was an idiot.

You either learn or you don’t though. I chose to learn.

Now, I’m going to show you two pictures. You’ve heard that cliche that a picture is worth a thousand words many, many times. It’s a good cliche as it’s usually true.

I have no idea who Aaron is. However, Mr. Aaron is indeed correct. These two images ought to be a conversation.

Here, you have a line to McDonald’s where people will gladly stay in line to put garbage in their bodies. Disclaimer – my wife is a shareholder at McD’s and we both believe it’s a damn good stock to buy and hold. That said, fast food is garbage.

Then of course you have the second image. An empty gym.

As I said in a previous post, the stupid governor of California closed the gyms. If anything, those are the last places on the planet that should be closed. We need more people going to the gym, not less.


And the second image? My Easter dinner.

My Easter dinner

I had a non-drinker over so I didn’t drink either. So you’re looking at 75% of what I ate for Easter dinner. We also had freshly sliced pineapple and dark chocolate for dessert.

Ever since I stopped eating processed foods, I can actually taste real food now. I couldn’t before. I didn’t enjoy food before. I just wolfed it down.

Now, I actually enjoy it. But I’m more in tune with my body so I stop once I’m full.

Fruits? Absolutely delicious! I’ll take them over candy any day of the week.

I can taste apples and oranges now. They’re so good. So we now enjoy fruits for dessert.

It’s funny because before when I couldn’t really taste food, I heard about other people enjoying fruit for dessert and I thought that was the dumbest thing in the world. Dessert should be cake, pie, cupcakes, or ice cream sundaes.

So glad I no longer think like that. And not a coincidence – I’m way healthier than I used to be. And of course slimmer.

I woke up on Easter, poured myself some coffee, and headed to the gym. I did five sets of squats. Felt great. Then headed home.

Practiced piano for a few hours. Practiced guitar for an hour. Painted for hours. Talked to Allie and Roxy. Then made Easter dinner for my guests.

Fitness is a mindset. You change your diet. You change your routines. You start thinking like a fit person rather than a fat person.

Of course, you’ll have jealous co-workers. They’ll often throw passive aggressive jabs at you like “you’re so lucky you’re slim, Roman,” knowing full well I watch my diet and bust my ass at the gym.

They call it luck because they’re passive aggressive losers. That’s intentional. They don’t want to admit that they have a thousand opportunities to also be healthy but they continually make poor choices. So they have to slag on people who make better choices instead.

But you know what? They’re not my friends. I got rid of my shit friends last year and people like that – I don’t see them after work. I have no time anymore for losers.

If you need help changing…

Look, I’m no better than anyone else. I simply admitted I had a problem with my diet and exercise routine and sought help.

If I can change my diet/lifestyle, so can you.

I hired two personal trainers and a dietician. Well, that’s actually two people as one of the people had degrees in both fields so he was both my trainer and my dietician.

So it’s simple. 1. Admit you have a problem. 2. Seek help.

Some folks can do it on their own. More power to them!

But if you’re like me and the type of person who would rather have someone who knows what they’re doing coach you, then by all means, go that route.

Just don’t be that passive aggressive douchebag who has to cut other people down for improving themselves.

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  1. Could not agree more here, there is nothing wrong with hiring coaches or consultants to improve upon what you may already be doing. More often than not, it is our ego’s that prevent us from a willingness to do so. Even Barry Bonds had a hitting coach.

    That said, also need to vet your consultant wisely, there are plenty of hacks out there. If you don’t or can’t find a way to admire the adviser/coach, keep looking.

    1. Well said Sir.

      The funny thing is I was just reading about Barry Bonds this morning. 2022 is his last year of eligibility for the Hall. Which is silly because even if he never hit a single home run, he’s got the most walks ever, he’s led the majors in batting average multiple times, and he’s pretty close to Ricky Henderson’s runs record.

  2. That photo of McDonald’s and the gym is why I will not take a fat person in a mask serious when they lecture us about health. I am in the car for work all day. I have never driven by a McDonald’s or a Chick Filet that did not have a line wrapped around the building. (I bring my lunch from home) People love their junk food… Instead of vaccine passports they should require fitness passports. Then you would see a real resistance…

    1. Love it! Yes, for some reason, fat folks love to lecture fit people on health.

      I don’t get it. I don’t go up to professional baseball players and tell them the correct way to hit the ball. “Yeah, Mr. Bonds, you’re swinging the bat wrong.”

      And we seriously need to take fitness seriously in this country. Rather than focusing on diseases, we should be focusing on losing weight. But then again, fit people will ruin the healthcare industry because the rare times we have our health checkups, we’re usually in and out. Big Pharma doesn’t make much money off of us.

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