Nobody likes to admit that the problem is themselves.
If someone is single for a long time, the problem is them.
If someone is constantly in real bad relationships, the problem is them.
If someone is constantly broke, the problem is them.
If someone is 50 pounds overweight, the problem is them.
If someone can’t control their drinking and/or drug use, the problem is them.
If someone sucks at everything in life, the problem is them.
See, the sooner you realize all these things, the better. Then you can fix them.
But even self-improvement folks have blind spots. Myself included.
I played Captain Saveaho one too many times. I’ve let in a sociopath and two narcissists in my inner circle before. I should be fluent in Romanian by now but I’m still struggling to learn the language.
Now granted, I’m an elite guitarist. I’m an intermediate pianist. I’m a damn good pinup artist. I’m already decent at cryptocurrency investing. I beat the S&P 500 almost every year. I was a pretty good wrestler. I also was pretty good at soccer. I could still throw a football farther than most people, even at my age. In this year alone, I’ve had numerous people walk by me while lifting weights and saying “damn!”
Sometimes, you got to pat yourself on the back and give yourself credit for what you’ve accomplished so far. If you haven’t accomplished that much, get to work. The sooner the better.
Anyways, take a cold, hard look in the mirror. What have you accomplished? What are you proud of? But also, what’s wrong with your life? If it’s not important, work on what’s important. If it is important, how are you gonna fix it?
I’ve been taking figure drawing lessons to improve my artwork. Yes, even after selling paintings for thousands of dollars, I still take lessons.
I’m taking a new Romanian course because I was frankly learning too slowly. This one is more practical.
I also paid a cryptocurrency expert recently for a one-on-one.
And lastly, I’m actually learning from my wife on how to read people. She’s excellent at it. She sees red flags almost immediately. So I’m learning red flags.
Sometimes you gotta ask for help.